If you intend to be a leader who always means what you say, there will be occasion when your conversations ruffle feathers, even elicit harsh rebukes or rejection. But such conversation can be the beginning of transformational change. It takes guts to ignite the flame that will make things hot, and a willingness to do so is a pre-requisite for leadership.
It's easy to engage people in predictable exchange. It's another matter entirely when what you say may cause discomfort. Before you speak, consider the literal meaning of the work "encourage."* Focus less on securing agreement and more on how you can help your listeners take up the challenge your works throw down. Together — with courage squared — you're more likely to find a mutually satisfactory resolution. If this sounds like work, it is. But shared courage is what it takes to make a real difference and change the world.
*en-cour-age: to inspire with courage, spirit, confident; to spur on.